Clary walked numbly up the wide steps that led up to Beth Israel’s big glass front doors. In a way, she was glad she was here rather than anywhere else. What she wanted more than anything was to throw herself into her mother’s arms and cry, even if she could never explain to her mother what she was crying about. Since she couldn’t do that, sitting next to her mother’s bed and crying seemed like the next best option.
She’d held it together pretty well at Taki’s, even hugging Jace good-bye when she left. She hadn’t started bawling till she’d gotten on the subway, and then she’d found herself crying about everything she hadn’t cried about yet, Jace and Simon and Luke and her mother and even Valentine. She’d cried loudly enough that the man sitting across from her had offered her a tissue, and she’d screamed, What do you think you’re looking at, jerk? at him, because that was what you did in New York. After that
she felt a little better.
— “City of Ashes” by Cassandra Clare
Wow, just wow Clary it supposed to be so close to her mother and I’ve already gone over ad nauseam about how that is totally false. Clary doesn’t care about her mother, she doesn’t care about Simon or anyone else. This is Clary’s world and they just all live in it.
Again, my mother was a single parent for a very long time. I am in fact her oldest daughter, so I have a very special relationship with my mother. As an adult now, I can honestly say that she is one of my best friends. I can literally talk to her about everything.
So when my mother went through bariatric surgery this past year, those 3 days she went to the hospital I was literally beside myself. I took every opportunity that I could to talk to her (I was stuck at home with the kids, unfortunately). And when she got home I literally nursed her back to health.
Meanwhile, Clary does not think about her mother all, She only thought about her a few times in the book and that’s it! And just like the last time she visited her mother, she is only going there to cry on her mother’s comatose shoulder!
Yes, I know that people grieve differently and that people process emotions differently.
However, even when we are reading her thoughts in the narrative there is no subtext of her being concerned about her mother. Her mother is always the afterthought.
Jace is Clary’s main priority. Nothing else matters, not her family, friends, education, or ambitions. The moment that Clary met Jace, he became her solitary priority. This is not how a healthy relationship is supposed to work.
Yes, when you are in a relationship your partner becomes a big part of your life. However, they should never be your entire life. This stinks of obsession, not romance and surely not love.
Every time Clary tries to put off this pretends like she cares about the people around her we can instantly see it for the thin facade that is. This is yet another reason why Clary Fray continues to be such a horrible person.